After the Affair

From Trauma to Reconnection

with Janis Abrahams Spring, PhD, ABPP

This program was offered on Saturday, December 10, 2011 9:00am – 12:30pm

National 4- H Conference Center, 7100 Connecticut Avenue, Chevy Chase, MD

Even the most experienced therapist can feel overwhelmed by couples in the midst of a crisis of infidelity, when partners rage and precipitously drop out of therapy. Both sides battle feelings of helplessness and hopelessness. Drawing from 35 years of pioneering work overcoming these challenges, Janis Abrahams Spring will present how she helps couples tackle and transcend the trauma of infidelity. You’ll learn a radical approach for managing secrets in couples therapy and helping partners decide how much and what information should be shared about the affair. You’ll also learn how to help couples normalize the emotional avalanche of their experience so they don’t feel so discouraged, ashamed, self-righteous, or alone. You’ll learn how to help unfaithful and hurt partners identify yearnings, addictions, family of origin experiences, and other factors that made them vulnerable to an affair; appreciate the power and illusion of romantic love; and make a thoughtful decision about whether to fight for the marriage or end it. If the couple is interested in preserving the marriage, you’ll also help them learn lessons from the affair to rebuild trust, rekindle intimacy and connection, and earn forgiveness. The emphasis of this workshop will be on providing practical and concrete tools for helping partners take responsibility for their share of the relationship damage and grow as individuals and, perhaps, as a couple.

Based on attendance of this program, participants will be able to:

  • Describe an open secrets policy that helps them manage secrets in couples therapy.
  • Explain how an understanding of contributing factors reduces the couples’ vulnerability for future affairs.
  • Describe a “caring behaviors” exercise that fosters connection between partners.

JANIS ABRAHMS SPRING, PhD, is a nationally acclaimed expert on issues of trust, intimacy, and forgiveness. Her first book, After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful is Amazon’s #1 best seller in its category of couples and family therapy. How Can I Forgive You? The Courage to Forgive, The Freedom Not To, was a Books for a Better Life Award Finalist in the category of Best Psychology Book. Her latest book, Life with Pop: Lessons on Caring for an Aging Parent, a Living Well Award Silver Medalist, captures the extraordinary, ordinary personal challenges and moments of grace that come with care-giving and growing old. In private practice for 35 years, Dr. Spring is a recipient of the Connecticut Psychological Association’s Award for Distinguished Contribution to the Practice of Psychology. She is a Diplomate in Clinical Psychology, a former clinical supervisor in the Department of Psychology at Yale University, and a popular media guest on programs such as NPR, Good Morning America, and Sirius XM Radio. She and her husband live in Westport, CT, and have four sons and four grandchildren.

Continuing Education

3.0 CE credits available for full attendance

The Institute of Contemporary Psychology and Psychoanalysis (ICP&P) maintains responsibility for this program and its content. ICP&P is approved by the American Psychological Association to sponsor continuing education for psychologists. ICP&P is approved by the Maryland Board of Social Work Examiners to offer Category I continuing education credit. Because ICP&P has approval from the Maryland Board, CE credit hours awarded by ICP&P may also be claimed by social workers licensed in Virginia and the District of Columbia. These continuing education credits meet the ANCC approval standards for nurses and the approved standards for marriage and family therapists. Attendees from the above professional groups will earn 3.0 CE credits for attending the conference. Full attendance is required to receive the designated CE credit. ICP&P is accredited by MedChi, the Maryland State Medical Society to provide continuing medical education for physicians. ICP&P designates this educational activity for a maximum of 3.0 AMA PRA Category 1 Credit(s). Physicians should only claim credit commensurate with the extent of their participation in the activity.


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Fees: ICP&P Member: Free, Non Member: $ 90.00, Full-time Students: $35.00

For more information, please call 202-686-9300 ext. 5, or email

Neither ICP&P nor the presenters have any relevant financial relationship with any commercial interests.